I’m very open and honest with my sex life and sexual experiences. I know what I want out of sex, and I know what don’t. I know what I’m willing to do and I know what I’m not. I know how to use everything I’ve been blessed with to please myself, and others. Does that make me a freak?
Last night, while I was having a sexy talk with my boyfriend on the phone he told me that I was a freak and nymphomaniac. I don’t think I’m either of those things. I don’t think I do anything that would be considered ‘freaky’ in the bedroom. I think I do the normal stuff. I don’t like to stay in one position the entire time (but who does?) I will wear sexy outfits, not just lingerie but full on costumes. I’m also a fan of dirty talk and role playing, but all of that seems normal to me.
A nympho? I think that’s a little harsh. A nymphomaniac is defined as “abnormally excessive and uncontrollable sexual desires in women” and “a compulsion to have sexual intercourse with as many men as possible and an inability to have lasting relationships with men.”
First of all, why is nymphomania only relevant for women? Does that mean all men have a normal sexual desire? Tell that to Congressman Weiner.
Second of all, my sexual desire is not excessive or uncontrollable. I admit, I love to have sex, and I could totally have sex every day. But I don’t have sex every day, and I’m not falling into a deep depression if I miss a fix or two. Granted, I may be a little bias because I spent 6 sinful days and night with my boyfriend and as far as my ‘fix’ is concerned….I think I’m fixed for awhile. But even if I had an excessive desire for sex, it’s not uncontrollable. I get horny way more times a day then I have sex, if I couldn’t control my urges I would have banged my boss by now.
Third of all, is that second definition calling me a hoe?
I have had a few sex partners, but I wasn’t under some sort of compulsion spell to have sex with them. I was dating them, drunk, or bored. And my inability to have a successful relationship in the past didn’t stem from my love of sex (because I’m pretty sure most men would love to date a girl who was always in the mood) it stemmed from my lack of trust.
So now that I’ve pleaded my case as to why I believe myself to not be a freak and definitely not a nympho, what does make someone a freak? Is it like beauty? And only in the eyes of the beholder? Let a bitch know.
